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Are you self- sabotaging?


Good day my Homies 🙂

An excerpt for Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert:

“The Yogic sages say that all the pain of a human life is caused by words, as is all the joy. We create words to define our experience and those words bring attendant emotions that jerk us around like dogs on a leash. We get seduced by our own mantras (I’m a failure… I’m lonely… I’m a failure… I’m lonely…) and we become monuments to them.”

In the book The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he speaks about the concept of the word “sin.” According to Ruiz, the true meaning of this word is to “go against yourself.” Every time you put yourself down, or compromise your true feelings, you are sinning. And in essence, you are contracting rather than expanding because you place yourself in a place of fear- in a prison.

“You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace. You can transcend the dream of hell just by making the agreement to be impeccable with your word. Right now I am planting that seed in your mind. Whether or not the seed grows depends upon how fertile your mind is for the seeds of love. It is up to you to make this agreement with yourself: it will generate more seeds of love to replace the seeds of fear. Don Miguel Ruiz.

We all want peace. And we all want to manifest our deepest burning desires. However, most times, we ourselves are our biggest block. Until we learn to remove this BUG by being kind and accepting of ourselves, we cannot expand ourselves into the best versions of ourselves.

So how do we do that?



Meditate on “Doubt”- grow your “doubt awareness”. During the course of the day, watch your inner conversation and outer conversations with others. Be the observer of what you say about yourself. What do you BEAT YOURSELF ABOUT? Is it loving or is it mean? And how does it feel?

Write down all the things you say to yourself and read them. How does this make you feel? I’m guessing- NOT good.

#2 Forgive yourself:

Now this is important. Do not become angry at yourself for being mean to you. Simply forgive. This dissolves the negativity. Anger only nurtures the negativity in your mind. Try this exercise in the mirror (taken from Belief Repatterning by Suze Casey):

#3: Re-pattern your thoughts:

I forgive myself for believing that old hurtful thoughts define who I am.


I recognize that those old thoughts have held me back and kept me stuck; I give myself permission to move forward.


I can hang on to those old thoughts or I can learn from them; I choose to learn what I can from them and let the rest go.


I am free to learn to define myself in ways that are supportive.


I know how to support others in their learning. I helped (insert name of a person) learn how to (insert)


I am supportive of others, like (insert name)


I give myself the same support that I gave (insert name)when he she was learning to (insert). I AM support.


This form of re- patterning shifts your vibration into a place where you can begin to be your own best friend. By acknowledging the strength you have to support others, you can begin to do that for yourself!

When you become good at this, you create a barrier of love around yourself and criticism/negativity from others bears less power. Because you no longer believe negative things about yourself, you can now expand and be the amazing powerful being you were sent here to be.

#3: Who are you really?

Write all amazing qualities you posses and even if you are not there yet- the qualities you want to possess (example- confidence). Write this entry in the PRESENT TENSE. You’re already there- creating the finest version of yourself (so far!). And imagine where you can expand to next! It is INFINITE!!!

Books I recommend on this topic:

The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz

Belief Repatterning By Suze Casey

**Remember, reading without implementation means NOTHING. If you are merely intellectualizing the concepts without putting them into practice, there will be no shift. So jump in and start living your impeccability- the water is fine!!











I’d love to hear from YOU!! How have you trancended from self- sabatoge to self love! Post in the comments below!!